“When I am drunk, you are the only one I remember. When I am not, I am not me. O’ my dear decade old love, it has been so long since I am running away from you. What have I not tried to forget you? Why are you still with me?
Why don’t you let me be myself? Did not I try my best to make you mine? Did not I become a clown to make you smile? Did not I say goodbye friend, when you asked me to, dictating it, as if a wish of divine?
I wonder, whether it’s you who still want me to wish for you or the curse of those proposals that I put down to be with you one good day.”
“Life has come to a stand-still. After numerous attempts I am not doing what I really wanted to (from heart). I dropped out, let my social life vanish, and made you my only love. I proved myself, my loved ones wrong. Were they were wrong expecting me to achieve that level? Was not I talented enough? Was not I worth it? Where was I lacking in efforts, funding and time?
Seems the fate was not in my favor and I was supposed to do this sub-standard course/job.”
“Why do you do this to me? Why have I been spared from witnessing your smiling face, the bonding that we used to have, the time that used to be ours? Am I just supposed to spend an aim-less life with that loneliness and those loveless words that you embarrass me with again and again? What happened to my sweet heart that used to beat for you?
Where did I go wrong, what was my mistake, what didn’t I tried to keep our relationship alive.
I wonder, where is that love or was there no love ever!!!”
These are just three of millions such stories where we find ourselves so much broken that we are no more happy, there seems to be no way out. Hope looks like a dark, black, no moon night without any expectation of a dawn in near future. Suggestions, Inspirational quotes, friends’ advices all become junk words randomly striking on senseless ears. Life converts into a “Joy Eclipse”.
So how should one act to zoom out of the underworld of sadness? Is there a quick fix to our problems? Or that’s what God has written in his books for us and we should respect his orders.
I am afraid there are no quick fixes. And regarding God’s wish, He exists in each one of us, in you, in me, in well-wishers and even inside the person who you may be blaming for your sorrows. So if God (the blamed) wants you to experience this so He only (your well-wishers) wants you to come out of it. Remember after every dark night there is a bright day awaiting you. Having had a bad experience makes you a better player and gives you time to be stronger. (Recall: the most famous saying: “Whatever happens, happens for a reason and that’s always a good one)
Good time does not feel overloaded but bad time does (even though it is not). Rewarding yourself a fat belly requires just the latest meal even though all past meals with gala time and rest were the driving factors. Just like losing a belly makes you sweat as if you were born to workout, similarly coming out of discomfort zone requires your consistent effort, a zeal and positive attitude with an ever-lasting spirit. If we give ourselves some time and stop cursing the past, things will be a lot different.
Two of my posts “How negativity turns out to be blessing?” and “Tired of Life-Why” address the art of positivity. The attitude is both the best medicine and the worst killer. It drives our prospective and makes all the different. “Cold, evil, darkness don’t exist, they are just absence of heat, God and light respectively. It’s just the perspective that matters”. (derived from famous scientist Albert Einstein’s education time story)
As we have already agreed that God resides in each one of us. So the 1st step is to share the blame and forgive the so called blamed person/reason. Admitting our mistakes makes us stronger and forgiving someone makes us wiser. One thing to remember here it that we are forgiving but not forgetting the lessons learnt.
We should understand that it’s not the end of the road. Life is such a great gift and we should respect it and thank our dears. If something did not go well, it does not give us a license to pour our anger to everyone around. They are the same people who used to and do care about us. They deserve their share of happiness from us.
Foul odor makes our noses up and causes disturbance; we can’t stay with it forever. On the contrary, fragrance of flowers is a treat for our nostrils, a gift of God. Happiness is like the scent; the more it spreads, the more it soothes to heart and lesser it fouls. Choice is ours: what we want, a healthier environment or a sick world. Lessons have been learnt, it’s time to continue the journey.
There will surely be a day when those three stories will transform into following ones:
“Now that you are not with me, I ll always cherished the good time we had together. I lived for your happiness and will always pray for it. Either you were not for me or there is someone more lovable waiting for me, both are pretty good indicators for our happiness and our relationship to last forever in our hearts, our sacred hearts. I wish you Good luck.”
“No task is sub-standard; it’s our thoughts that make things different. If I could not become a doctor, does not mean I won’t be able to serve society. Failure to get admission to college X does not mean, I won’t be a great professional. Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Mother Teresa, Bill Gates, Steven Jobs and don’t know how many fought their fate to achieve what they are and will be forever.”
“I have not forgotten the time when we used to live for each other. I am no more judgmental. I understand that it’s time for us to be mature and understand that there are other things we should concentrate at as well. Let’s sit, discuss calmly and start afresh. We just need to respect each other’s feelings. You were mine and I was you, and will be yours forever, forever and forever.”
It’s me who write my fate, it’s not my fate that writes my life.